Tag: help

How to Listen Without Getting Defensive

I will be the first to say ” I Do This!! ” No, I don’t want to, so I’ve been working on it.

Today I learn something so interesting, our neurotransmitters filter all the information we absorb. Now, when we hear a ” difference of opinion” about a subject of our deep concern, because it’s of importance to us, we get defensive! It’s the same process that occurs if we see a loved one getting attacked.

This particular article talks about how we can work ourselves out of that defense mode. These are EASY AND SIMPLE changes that can strengthen our relationships of any level!

You’ve Got This!! Good Luck!

Here’s the key to listening non-defensively.
— Read on www.gottman.com/blog/listen-without-getting-defensive/

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I Dedicate…

This is being formulated for the One Word Prompt Challenge: dedicate! Photos have been taken from Pinterest.

🌼 I dedicate this post to every warrior who’s survived abuse: whether you’re a man, woman, gender fluent, survived emotional abuse, sexual, or physical. An individual who lives to tell their story of every, any, and all situations where he/she endured forced harm is beyond surviving. You are amazing, and you need to believe this about you. 🌸

#98 Weekend Writing Prompt: Impervious

This is being formulated for Sammi Cox’s Weekend Writing Prompt Challenge. You can read more about it HERE =]

The couple chattered merrily down a chilly London street. They’re newly weds, and the honeymoon phases was radiating from their smiles.

Two blocks from their favorite Cafè, they passed a small boy shivering under an old ragged tarp.

” Oh look John, that young man needs help. He’s at least needing an impervious shelter to keep dry.!” Natalia empathized.

” Hello! What’s your name?” She inquired before John could caution her.

” Toby, ma’am.” the frightened boy murmured.

” Well Toby, I’m Natalia. Would you like to come with us so we can get you some basic needs?”

He, thankfully, took her hand.

100 Word Wednesday

100Written for BikurGurl’s 100 Word Wednesday Challenge


Every year, on Memorial Day, Jimmy and his Uncle Frank went fishing. Frank was an Army Vet of 36 years, and fishing was always his chance for relaxation.

The men were carrying on, enjoying laughs, down old route 116, when they heard a sudden spine tingling scream. It was a woman’s voice, and she needed help!

Immediately, in the quick pull off, the two men hurdled out of the old station wagon. They practically fell on their faces trying to get to the area where she frightfully hung.

” Hello Ms, hold on!!” Jimmy shouted.” We’ll get you up here, safely.”

Those Who Needed This

For those of you who need to hear this:

I got you. I get it. Me, too! You got this. You’re going to get through it. It won’t be easy; but, you are equipped with everything you need. Sometimes, you’ll feel weak. Sometimes, you’ll fall ill.. But, you will get back up and keep going. Because you’re Strong Enough!

Just Don’t

I don’t owe you an explanation.

My clothes are on my body; it’s not a welcome invitation to violate.

My skin color IS my beauty; my history my story. It’s not your ticket to decimate and hate.

My voice is my truth; my right to use it. You will not munipulate and silence.

My actions are my life, my legacy to pass on. It’s not up for you to revise and edit.

My heart lives within me, the element that gives me life. It’s not yours to destroy with your bitterness.

My sexually is my pride. It’s nothing offensive but to your ego.

My spirituality is my peace. It’s not an excuse for your nasty ignorance of unacceptable behavior.

Any, every, and all parts of who I am is mine to own, protect, nurture, love, cherish, and use to further kindness and compassion.

I don’t owe you an explanation!

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MoonChild & Her Wolves

MoonChild has family roots that tie her to The Sioux Native Americans. She doesn’t live a lifestyle similar to her heritage; however, she respects and practices the basic fundamental truths.

One cold Friday night, Moonchild heard a noise outside her living room window. She’s never had issues with intruders; but, there’s a first time for everything. She grabbed her rifle, tucked in a locked box, behind her bedroom door, and stepped out onto her porch.

“Hello? Who’s out there?”, She shouted, with her rifle ready to fire. Being a single mom of two daughters, she was always ready to fight and protect.

She heard no response. She repeated the question, ” Hello?! I know you’re close. Come out into the light and no one gets hurt!”

Suddenly, she heard little whimpers.

“Huh??” She uttered.

Slowly, she made her way down the steps, and noticed several pawprint tracks in the snow. Her heart sunk; “Oh my!” She thought to herself. Whatever animal was close, couldn’t be very big. The prints explained that much.

She slowly stepped off the last step, and moved toward the direction of the prints. The moon was full, a beautiful blue and lit up the snow.

Just around the backside of her tool shed, huddled in a hole dug in the far right corner, where a beautiful pack of cold baby wolves.

She stared for a moment, then fell to her knees. Slowly, to not spook the babies, she sat on her heals and waited. MoonChild knew wolves were loyal to thier pack. If they were here, it’s highly likely adults of the pack were close.

The waiting turned into twenty minutes, and the North Dakota snow drift, especially this time of night at this time of year, is deadly. As if these precious babes understand her concern, they slowly made their way toward her. Sniffing first, to endure safety, one by one, they circled her.

She continued to be still, intuitively realizing she felt their trust. After another ten minutes, they were bouncing on and licking her.

Quickly, she gathered her precious pups, and hurried inside. They surely needed food and water.

Photo credit: The Haunted Wordsmith

https://pin.it/oxbe7bbvma2vjl

You can check out The Haunted Wordsmith’s Daily Writing Challenge Here🙂

Four Days Since

We structure our lives around “time”. Since Jesus’ day, humans have been doing this. He says, in Ecclesiastes 3:1-8

To every thing there is a season,
          
and a time to every purpose under the heaven:
          
A time to be born, a time to die;
          
a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted;
          
A time to kill, and a time to heal;
          
a time to break down, and a time to build up;
          
A time to weep, and a time to laugh;
          
a time to mourn, and a time to dance;
          
A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together;
          
a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;
          
A time to get, and a time to lose;
          
a time to keep, and a time to cast away;
          
A time to rend, and a time to sew;
          
a time to keep silence, and a time to speak;
          
A time to love, and a time to hate;
          
A time of war, and a time of peace.

Time… the center of all that operates, finishes, begins, and exists….

In life, there are moments, we all have expierenced: birthdays, school, losing teeth, learning to walk.

Other moments appear in most of our timelines: graduation, driving, marriage, children.

Time is the constant change, ironically the very thing we pray will

Stop when life feels wonderful…

Be forgettable when moments are uncomfortable…

Hurry when we’re eager…

Slow down when we desire….

As if we’ve ever had control of its infinite existence and fulfilling purpose.

We didn’t create life, in the terms of ” in the beginning”. We never decided how life reproduces, species adapt, animals appear. We weren’t given such control.

Considering our mortal imperfections, I am relieved such is true. Never do I wish to hold the responsibility of which all things weave together in life’s dance.

Having said that, then, I must be patient and allow it to do what’s meant for me. I must trust it, in the intentions it has, for my wellbeing. I must live it, now… Because, it doesn’t stop, and it won’t slow down. I must use it in such a way that means something, because those individuals are who we remember… Because love is the ONLY that conquered death.

I have been lost, in past memories, quite a bit the last several days. Some days logic kicked my ass with the facts. Time after time after time…. (Fill in the blank). Unfortunately, this phrase comes with a list. Sucks! They’re truths, though. I had to accept them. I had to change it.

Other days, I’m lost in reasons why I miss him. Moments of intimacy and delicious closeness. His presence was lacking. That was the number one issue.

Time is stirring all of this, showing me signs, revising my vision of myself, refueling my heart and soul… And revealing clarity in the form of wisdom. None of this can happen if I don’t be patient…

Pain is uncomfortable, but so is being mistreated and neglected. Four days later, I do feel a bit more strength. I feel growth and faith.

I’m trusting my process

Time is on my side.

Habla en Español #6

Now, I’m going to move on to some basic sentences.

Spanish: Ella es una mujer.

EnglishShe is a woman.

Spanish: Tú eres un niño.

English: You are a boy.

Spanish: Comes manzanas.

English: You eat apples.

Spanish: Tú eres hombre.

English: You are a man.

SpanishUsted es una mujer.

English: You are a woman.

Featured Image Credit: Spanish 4 Teachers Website

Preference or Absence

Absence makes the heart grow fonder …. or does it? Is it the absence of another individual that strengthens love, with time? Or is it the choice to love from both individuals that sustains through distance and time?

When others die, they don’t return. Does this make our hearts less fond of him/her? Or is it the choice to hold on to the love and let go of the pain?

Absence may indeed make the heart grow fonder, but I believe it’s a deliberate choice to love that sustains the relationship. When someone truly understands what love is…. And what it feels like, … I don’t think someone would allow anything to interfer.

… Or maybe I’m just a woman, insanely in love…

Hotlines

List taken from this website:D

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
1-800-273-8255

Crisis text line
http://www.crisistextline.org/
Text HOME to 741741

US Trans lifeline
http://www.translifeline.org/
(877) 330-6366

SAMHSA Treatment Referral Helpline
1‑877‑SAMHSA7 (1‑877‑726‑4727)

Adolescent Suicide Hotline
800-621-4000

Adolescent Crisis Intervention & Counseling Nineline
1-800-999-9999

AIDS National Hotline
1-800-342-2437

CHADD-Children & Adults with Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder
1-800-233-4050

Child Abuse Hotline
800-4-A-CHILD

Cocaine Help Line
1-800-COCAINE (1-800-262-2463)

Domestic Violence Hotline
800-799-7233

Domestic Violence Hotline/Child Abuse
1-800-4-A-CHILD (800 422 4453)

Drug & Alcohol Treatment Hotline
800-662-HELP

Ecstasy Addiction
1-800-468-6933

Eating Disorders Center
1-888-236-1188

Family Violence Prevention Center
1-800-313-1310

Gay & Lesbian National Hotline
1-888-THE-GLNH (1-888-843-4564)

Gay & Lesbian Trevor HelpLine Suicide Prevention
1-800-850-8078

Healing Woman Foundation (Abuse)
1-800-477-4111

Help Finding a Therapist
1-800-THERAPIST (1-800-843-7274)

Incest Awareness Foundation
1-888 -547-3222

Learning Disabilities – (National Center For)
1-888-575-7373

National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI)
1-800-950-NAMI (6264)

Panic Disorder Information Hotline
800- 64-PANIC

Post Abortion Trauma
1-800-593-2273

Project Inform HIV/AIDS Treatment Hotline
800-822-7422

Rape (People Against Rape)
1-800-877-7252

Rape, Abuse, Incest, National Network (RAINN)
1-800-656-HOPE (1-800-656-4673)

Runaway Hotline
800-621-4000

Self-Injury (Information only)
(NOT a crisis line. Info and referrals only)
1-800-DONT CUT (1-800-366-8288)

Sexual Assault Hotline
1-800-656-4673

Sexual Abuse – Stop It Now!
1-888-PREVENT

STD Hotline
1-800-227-8922

Suicide Prevention Lifeline
1-800-273-TALK

Suicide & Crisis Hotline
1-800-999-9999

Suicide Prevention – The Trevor HelpLine
(Specializing in gay and lesbian youth suicide prevention).
1-800-850-8078

IMAlive-online crisis chat
https://www.imalive.org/

Teen Helpline
1-800-400-0900

Victim Center
1-800-FYI-CALL (1-800-394-2255)

Youth Crisis Hotline
800-HIT-HOME

🌟Blog Spotlight 🌟 Saturday

Hi ya’ll:D

I find some pages that are gold mines.

They have a wealth of information/suggestions that literally makes me feel like it’s a true gift.

That being said, I’m starting a section of my blog to share such treasures with you 🙂

I love every single blog I read, so please don’t feel I dislike yours if I don’t share it.

With time, you may end up being the weekly ” #blogspotlight ”


Week 1: 10/20-10/27

This week’s spotlight goes to a super exciting blog called Promptuarium!!!!

I was searching through Pinterest, hoping to find some writing inspiration. Now, I had literally looked for three minutes before coming across this blog. I’m super excited to use the prompts. I hope that you find inspiration as well.

Daily Writing Challenge: (3TC)

Daily Writing Challenge hosted by The Haunted Wordsmith

3TC: hope, love, lost

This word combination is ironically the entire purpose of living…

Hope is that which we want. It’s belief in something yet to happen, but that we feel can and will happen… A great job, an answered prayer for a loved one, a passing grade on a test, an acceptance into the first college of choice.

At some point, we all hope for the attention of an individual of which we find attractive. We hope this individual looks our direction, and finds us attractive in return. It’s a funny experience, jumbled words and internal butterflies. Sheepish smiles and all that doesn’t make sense about love.

Sometimes, our hope becomes our reality. The love between two individuals blossoms more vibrant days, lovey dovey unexpected office deliveries, and tons of time… Not sleeping.

With hope, comes love, but the garuntee is… With love comes loss. Life ends, tournaments end, holidays end, childhood ends…. Everything does. It’s the inevitable. Life begins to end the moment we’re born… One second at a time… Slowly, it passes and it’s incapable of returning.

Some people acknowledge that, and spend time making the very best of every moment. Others don’t see or consider a bigger picture. Maybe they’re drug addicts and can only focus on that short-term fix. Unfortunately, such lifestyles exist too. Either way, what we love… We eventually lose.

TRAUMA creates a change within the brain. It’s a segment of thoughts that get stuck in a certain period of time. Real life can trigger such memories, and the individual must manage the experience. Loss is painful.

Pain stops many people from living… And feeling. There’s several reasons why this happens; but, that’s irrelevant. At this point, then, the individual lives life in their loss.

He or she won’t allow him/herself to grow an attachment. He or she won’t allow anyone to be too close or in too deep. He or she may refuse to allow much to matter, at all.

When there’s no love, no passionate for more.. no belief or desire to achieve in life… Because existing is merely going through the motions… There’s no hope. There’s nothing to lose because nothing was gained. There’s no additional pain because there was no attachment.

I’ve seen both of these chain of events. I have loved ones who’ve been in one or the other… And I’ve tried to help them heal.

The order of which these happen is determined by what any one individual sees at any point in life… And only they can change their course.

Signs & Symptoms

Just as with other illness, prevention is key! To keep a cold away, doctors recommend individuals wash hands, keep hands away from the mouth, cover a sneeze or cough with an elbow or tissue.

Occasionally, we miss something though. Before long, someone in the family is feverish, grumpy with no appetite. The symptoms were there, and actions are taken to stop the illness from progressing.

Each mental illness has it’s own set of signs and symptoms. These are extremely important because a mental illness isn’t as obvious to the world around us.. it’s the invisible battle.

The common warning signs are the following:

  1. Major changes in sleep, eating habits, and personal care habits.
  2. Quick or dramatic changes in mood.
  3. Disinterest in events, people, activities that were once enjoyed.
  4. Descrease in effort into tasks: work, home, activities.
  5. Increase difficulty with concentration on memory or thought and speech that’s complex.
  6. Increase in sensitivity, easily overwhelmed and avoids such situations.
  7. Apathy
  8. Feeling a sense of out of the body. Disconnected from own thoughts, life, and surroundings.
  9. Illogical reason such as that in the childhood stage.
  10. Peculiar and bizarre behavior.

Further details and information can be found by clicking the link above and any links in the Common Mental Disorders blog post!

Photo credit: pixabay

Common Mental Disorders

The National Alliance on Mental Health defines a “mental illness” as: a condition that affects a person’s thinking, feeling, or mood [https://www.nami.org/Learn-More/Mental-Health-Conditions].

Such illnesses include:

  1. Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder
  2. Anxiety Disorders
    Generalized Anxiety Disorder
    Social Anxiety Disorder
    Panic Disorder
    Phobias
  • A.) Related conditions
    • Depression
      Substance Use
      Eating Disorders
      Trouble sleeping
  • 3. Autism
  • 4. Bipolar Disorder
  • 5. Borderline Personality Disorder
  • 6. Depression
  • 7. Dissociative Disorders
  • 8. Early Psychosis and Psychosis
  • 9. Eating Disorders
  • 10. Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder
  • 11. Schizoaffective Disorder
  • 12. Schizophrenia
  • Lettrs: Hoorah

    Gretchen is like so many others, above and beyond what’s asked of her, selflessly giving, dedicated worker, loyal to work and family. She managed, though, to trip into some sticky situations with a monster of a spouse, and a greedy employer.

    We’ve been in situations that have been sticky, haven’t we? Our choices have gotten us in a bit of a mess, but hindsight is 20/20. Her instance was rather serious. She needed to act fast, and finally put herself first… To protect her life! Are you in that position? Are you holding on to something that’s destroying you, your happiness, and your family? What will it take for you to let go of it, despite your unhealthy reliance and fear of the detachment? I would hope you’d look in the mirror and give yourself the awesome peptalk you deserve.

    Adventure awaits, a new and prosperous life awaits, real love awaits, positive friendships and healthy connections await, a better you awaits, all that you’ve dreamed of awaits… You just have to take courage and stepped out the door.

    A Beginner at an Ending

    Right now, I’m watching a Netflix Original Series , “The L Word”.

    In this particular segment, Jenny, a compulsive and inspiring author, is meeting with an editor. She’s been diligently writing from the moment her character was introduced in Season 1.

    Her script has finally landed in the hands of a publisher, who’s desire is to put her story out “there”. Jenny’s in tears; she celebrates out loud… In the very moment she opens the envelope of her first advancement.

    The plot twist: Jenny’s story is dark. As her words formulated on paper, she relived every single haunting detail of childhood. Unfortunately, this munipulated her mind and lead her to self destruct.

    The editor argues Jenny’s portraying herself as a victim, who’s encouraging young girls to cut themselves to handle the agnony.

    To Jenny, as her life spins undeniably and profusely out of control, this choice… is a moment, when she feels some control of it.

    The editor proclaims that despite her adversity, Jenny is here. She’s survived. Her strength has brought her to this meeting, where Jenny’s sitting with an editor, discussing a nightmare that happens to be her life.

    Our lives are a tangled mix of victories and mistakes. We are individuals that have faced life that appeared completely uphill… and we doubted everything we ever thought to be true. We’ve seen questionable behavior. We’ve heard gut wrenching confessions. We’ve testified that no one else could possibly understand what “this is like!!”…

    Haven’t we?….

    We’ve felt like we’ve lost it… that we aren’t making sense, and that our sanity has abandoned us. We’ve felt this universe, or God has officially acted on some conspiring vendetta against us… and that for unbeknownst reasons, we MUST deserve it… where the ONLY thing that seems to make sense… and the only person that understands is the lie “pick up that razor blade”, ” go buy another 24 pack”, “you know where to find heroin.”, or ” You are just a pathetic nobody that fails at everything.”

    Our hearts are strong enough to accept what’s happened to us. Professionals, religious affiliates, nature, and even children can help… do help. WILL HELP.

    Our CHOICE to begin the process is how we change though. No one can force us to believe it’s possible. No one should ever hold that responsibility for our life.

    Jenny survives so much ugliness, and the editor is pushing her to see it… But, it’s Jenny’s life… and it’s her perspective. When the final day ends, does she want to be seen as a victim… carrying around her past, avoiding all roads that lead to hope and transformation? Or will she choose to withdrawal the shades, push open the windows, and allow the wind to dust off the cobwebs?

    You get to decide.

    Top 10

    Reasons I Love My Daughter in School :

    • She makes new friends.

    As I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized the importance of friendships. I truly wish I realized this, that my parents nurtured this idea when I was my daughter’s age.

    • I see other parents.

    Suddenly I don’t feel so alone in the ” sometimes” struggles that feel like suffocation.

    • I hear others parenting.

    This morning, I walked past an older woman of whom I’ve spoken to before. She had a small child with her, and she was instructing, “You always let the girls to first.” Way to go ma’am. That’s chivelry this world’s forgotten. Continue reading “Top 10”

    Not All Heroes Wear Capes

    Woman survives cancer, not once, but twice.

    Teacher shields her students in a school attack.

    Child decides to raise money for a parent’s bill.

    Man pushes himself to regain independency.

    Young man assists an elderly across the street.

    An employee encourages a special needs customer to help.

    Volunteering with disaster relief

    Donating blood.

    Registering as an organ donor.

    Praying

    Hugging

    Listening.

    There’s angels that walk this earth…

    That blend in with all of us…

    They don’t wear capes.

    They’re deciding to be kind.

    They’re demonstrating how to lead.

    They’re dedicating time to others.

    Not all heroes wear capes,

    Many of them, though they feel “ordinary”,

    Made a decision,…

    ……………

    ………….

    ……….

    ……

    That was extraordinary.

    In that moment … They became a hero.

    Reaching My Goal

    Attention 😀 :

    I am blessed to have 142 followers as of this morning. That’s hard for me to believe, but it’s my honor to have so many enjoy my posts. I hope to continue enriching life here 🙂

    For a bit of excitement, I’m running a contest to see who wins the 200th follower spot! The current follower AND the 200th will be my Smokin Feature Writers for a week. I will post a picture (with given permission) and a  short bio (whatever you’d prefer it to say) of each individual. I will also post a link to your blog. I may even create an award ribbon for your help 🙂

     

    I hope to see the number climb.

     

    It’s Beyond Coincidental

    the-fit-geek.tumblr.com/post/177957463530/be-patient-with-yourself-all-flowers-blossom-at

    “Be patient with yourself. All flowers blossom at different times.”

    —CKJ, Finding Avalon

     

     

    I was talking to a friend this morning because I couldn’t take anymore. (thank you The Good The Human for offering a listening ear. That really touched my heart!)

    She helped me realize I have been emotionally overwhelmed, in the last 3 days, and I needed to diffuse so I felt better. She’s so awesome, and she’s naturally a positive woman with encouragement and kindness to give. It’s impossible to end a conversation with her and feel crummy.

    Once we were finished talking, I came across this quote on tumbl’r. Timing…

    Something bigger than “coincidence”…..

    Suicide Awareness Month #3

    striking facts:

    ▪ Five million Americans have attempted suicide. Every seventeen minutes, one of them succeeds.

    ▪ Three and a half million Americans are survivors of a loved one’s suicide. Most of them have been left with a sense of guilt and deep grief.

    ▪ Between 1999 and 2010, the suicide rate in this country rose over 30%.

    ▪ Between 1952 and 1995, the suicide rate of young people (ages 15-24) tripled.

    ▪ Suicide is the second leading cause of death among college students.

    ▪ There are more deaths annually of young people by suicide than automobile fatalities.

    ▪ Fifteen percent of clinically depressed people commit suicide.

    ▪ Ten percent of suicide attempts made without a gun are successful.

    ▪ Ninety percent of suicide attempts made with a gun are successful.

    ▪ There has been a 128% increase in suicides among children aged 10-14 since 1980.

    ▪ One in twelve high school students has attempted suicide.

    ▪ More young people die from suicide than cancer, heart disease, AIDS, birth defects, strokes, pneumonia, and lung disease combined.

    ▪ Eighty percent of successful suicides have given clear warnings of their intentions to others prior to taking their lives.

    ▪ Teen boys commit suicide at a rate 4 times greater than girls.

    ▪ Divorced men commit suicide at a rate 10 times greater than divorced women.

    ▪ Baby boomers have a higher rate of suicide than any other age group.

    ▪ One out of three successful suicides has made at least one previous attempt.

    ▪ An attempt made within one year of an unsuccessful attempt is 100 times more likely to be successful than a first attempt.

    Stats taken from pin.it/2bsnocob4xetzf

    #BeThe1To Suicide Awareness

    This is a tough subject… But, especially for those of us who’s lives have been impacted by it. That percentage is probably higher than we think.

    The why’s, what if’s, should’ve… The mind doesn’t stop. For days.. Endlessly in manic mode until anxiety is wrapped around the throat.. And you feel officially crazy.

    It sucks..but, what that individual felt before ending his/her life is even more so horrific… Because they felt their pain was more than any solution could fix.

    September is Suicide Awareness Month. Right now, we can make a difference. We can ask questions and actively listen. We can hug and hold someone who’s hurting. We can encourage someone to seek help. Right now, though we won’t save them all, we CAN DO something to positively impact a situation… That may result in a different outcome.

    The American Veterans struggle with PTSD. Other individuals struggle with CPTSD. Anxiety and Depression rates are high. There’s lots of situations that place dangerously high levels of stress on an individual and his/her family.

    Here is the Suicide Prevention Website

    I’m going to keep this topic for September. I would hope if you are upset with this, you’d scroll on past me;)

    10 of the best mental health apps for 2018

    Life happens! When it does, these apps are here to assist us in regaining control of our thoughts, breathing, confidence, and self esteem. These handy apps are here if we’re looking for a peaceful little away scape, place to throw up some thoughts, and talk with a professional about a situation. At any moment, I hope any of these apps help you find your peace once again.

    Whether you’re going through a rough patch, experiencing depression, anxiety, or stress, or having relationship issues, there is an app to help.
    — Read on www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/320557.php

    Spread Kindness against Bullying

    1. News Coverage of Jamel’s Story
    2. Donations Page

    Quick & Easy Dinner

    I’m a busy momma, just as many of you 😀

    One thing I absolutely LOVE, is a quick, easy, & healthy dinner! Now that school’s in session, these are going to be necessary a few times a week! For this evening, I found a great meatloaf recipe:D

    * The recipe & photo taken from this site 😀 *

    I added 3-4 eggs, a half cup of Italian Bread Crumps, about a Table Spoon of Roast Beef seasoning, salt and pepper as well! It smells so delicious!

    If you have any easy dinners, maybe one that’s your go-to , please share it in the comments. Thanks:D

    Day 13

    Prompt: List 5 things that bring me peace

    1. Spiritual (panflute, piano, panpipe, Celtic, and flute especially) music.
    2. Bodies of water
    3. Eucalyptus and Lanvander bath salts
    4. Incense
    5. Nature

    • What things bring you peace? Do you make sure these things are incorporated into your life regularly?

    Bloggers Support

    Before I continue, I want to make it clear, this is strictly my opinion and referencing ONLY my personal experiences. In no way am I coercing anyone, nor disregarding any particular blog style or page.

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    Going Bananas 🍌🍌

    I wouldn’t be fulfilling my purpose of this blog, and very nice to keep this cool info to myself, if I didn’t share this article with you! Bananas, not only, help with physical health, but also, mental! So cool!

    www.topbuzz.com/article/i6579247884313559557

    7 Things Highly Sensitive People Should Do For Their Mental Health

    Highly Sensitive is a newer genre of people. LoL, so special in his/her own way. If you’re not familiar with what I mean, here is an incredible pdf, full of information.

    I know I’m constantly feeling overwhelmed with life. Self care is something I must practice. It’s no optional for me. Here’s a few helpful ideas if you’re feeling a need to too much.

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    — Read on www.bustle.com/p/7-things-highly-sensitive-people-should-do-for-their-mental-health-8688369

    “Bee” No one but Yourself

    Bees really are some cool little dude… And Queen. I didn’t realize how much they impact food production. I didn’t realize the value of honey, and the work required to make it. This morning, while enjoying my cup of coffee, I did alittle studying. Here’s a cute YouTube video about then, and some info graphs.

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    #9. Helpful Tips

    I’m so thankful when I come across tips that make life more pleasurable by reducing anxiety =) This list below has started my Tuesday with such positivity and encouragement 🌸

    ENJOY=)

    We live in a quick-fix kind of world, complete with one-minute meals and instant ab workouts. It’s nearly impossible to find the time to sit down and contemplate permanent ways to be happier. We’re in luck, then, because there are lots of little tric…
    — Read on www.bustle.com/articles/108208-11-hacks-scientifically-proven-to-make-you-feel-instantly-happy

    Vulnerable

    Life is such a rollercoaster. It’s even more so when you’re hormonal, sleep deprived, an Empath, and HSP. Right now, I feel so much that I feel like I’m going crazy. My sadness outweighs everything else, and I don’t want to be anywhere but home… Where it’s safe.

    In this case, safe would be where I am free from judgment, hurt, emotional pain, strain on my heart because of imperfect humanness, and loneliness. Didn’t know when this year started, that my life would feel like a torturous game of “escape room”, but sometimes, it does.

    For now, I’m going to nestle myself into my home. I’m laying off stressing myself about finances, outside responsibilities, events, socializing, housework , and pain. Monday is my birthday, and I deserve one day exactly how I’d like it to go.

    When all is said and done, I’ve made it through every trial this far. I must be doing alright.

    Good Night.

    #8. Incense

    As I was growing up, my sinuses never bothered me. Saline solution is a simple combination of salt and water. My tears handled the cleansing my face needed.

    When I became a Sophomore in college, the tears weren’t as often…. because I became a bit more rebellious. One particular day, I was doing a pose in my yoga class. I had my left hand flat on the floor, tucked behind my left ankle. My right hand was completely horizontal with my left, and I was facing the ceiling. Out of no where, my temperature jumped super high and the room started spinning. It was the craziest feeling ever. I was freaking out.

    After many years, I learned is it a condition called vertigo. There’s different types, and some can be corrected with surgery. I fortunately simply take prescribed Meclizine, and I’m feeling steady on my feet again.

    Because of this sensitivity, I had to quit burning most candles. This really made me upset, because candles were one of my favorite parts of my self-care plan. I had them lit while in a hot bubble bath, in the evening while watching tv. They were my opened door to spiritual healing.

    It wasn’t until three years ago, a decade later, that I discovered incense. A guy I knew had it burning at his house, and it wasn’t inflamming my sinuses!! I actually realized I preferred it over candles.

    I’ve been an addicted fool ever since!

    My favorite scents are by Essential Essences!!!

    1. 💕 Love
    2. 💕Rain Goddess
    3. 💕Tibetan Musk
  • This Picture

    I had lost thirteen pounds in two weeks. I was rudely awakened by the general consensus regarding others and my need to talk (they didn’t hear me!). I was isolated from a support system, most friends, professional help, and usually the general public. My anxiety astronomically skyrocketed because there was too much unknown. Not only that but there was absolutely NO consistency! I had terrible stomach pains, didn’t sleep much, drank entirely too much coffee…. and made myself feel crazy while “waiting”. The one ray of hope I THOUGHT I had, …. turned out to be a wolf in sheeps clothing. This was the life I had chosen for myself, a life most would’ve abandoned way sooner.

    I’m not in that particular “time” any longer, though the aftermath lingers. Being single feels super lonely. I just invested 14 months submitting to a dominant… Now, if you’re not familiar with this lifestyle, please Google it. Needless to say, the submission is completely voluntary because in return, her needs (both in and outside the bedroom) are met. That’s how it’s “suppose” to happen.

    Being single means alone… Sleeping, out to eat, nights, weekends, Netflix and Chill, every minute. Sure it’s healthy to be content with being alone. It’s necessary for such time, as well. Trust me, I understand that. There were too many instances over this time when I felt I should’ve had my boyfriend and I didn’t. He wasn’t there to hold me when I didn’t feel good. He wasn’t there to give me a hug when life felt too overwhelming. He wasn’t there to talk and work out our confrontations. He just wasn’t present.

    With all of that being said, this was and is the man who’s had the greatest place in my heart. I looked for hope with us. I looked for change, for improvement. I felt that if I saw growth, we were headed in the right direction.

    What direction was that?… And this is the error in this whole mess… The direction towards future tense picture of us. He and I were always talking about what we can do now to get to where we want to be. Now, that sounds like what a serious couple should be doing right? That’s something most couples do, and it should be a good sign… But, here’s the problem… Our current life wasn’t how we wanted it, so our goals were rather short term… We were working on this together… Hell, I thought we were even good as to being on the same page! This picture of us was constantly front and center! It’s how we always did it.

    The beginning of this year, all that I knew life to be for him and I stopped… Abruptly…

    And I wasn’t ready.

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