Tag: belief

Morning ☕️ 12/10/18


Gift of yourself 🎄

Hear is love for you:

Love Yourself so that you RECOGNIZE alone isn’t LONELY

You are OK… being alone with your badass self!

You are OK being at home, on your day off, decorating for Christmas, catching up on that book list you’ve been wanting to read, watching the makeup tutorials or moving around your place.

Recognize alone means you are doing life for you! You’re OK with quiet, you’re OK with your thoughts, who you are, comfortable with just as things are…

Being alone means you are single… Putting yourself first… Embracing your talents and interests, investing and promising to yourself. You are nurturing and guiding yourself to a higher self.

You decide your looks. You decide your morals and believes… All that does and /or doesn’t matter. You create your life, who you are. No one lives your life ; no one else is going to walk your steps… No one else will deal with your consequences. Your life is YOURS!

That’s the beginning of being comfortable, whether you’re with someone or not. That’s the beginning of the journey, because it’s you coming to know who you are. As you continue to travel that road, you realize that power of choice.

The rest of us don’t need to know, you are not in need of our validating… You only need one… YOURS! You first must embrace your confidence within yourself, for your life.


Being lonely is an Emptiness… It has absolutely NOTHING to do with relationship status. There are celebrities that are the loneliest. They’re committing suicide because money isn’t satisfying the human need of “purpose”. Loneliness is a character trait, alone is a status.

When you’re lonely, something is missing… And you’re always trying to fill that void with something temporary.

Being lonely means you feel a need… But, hear this, that need is ONLY what’s within yourself. You will NEVER fill that need from an external source. You were created an original, from a blueprint created by The Most High… Stitched together is a beautiful collection of strengths and flaws, attributes and blessings, thoughts, talents, and stories that only you can give.

The life of loneliness is confusion and ashamed of self, astranged peace of mind, Munipulation, brokeness, judgements and bitterness…. Loneliness is a mental place…

And it’s your place… Unless you choose to redecorate.

Worthy in His Image

Tonight, God reminded me of the power in asking.

What he taught me; never feel undeserving or the request too large to be granted.

Tonight, I asked for a miracle…because Christmas is the season of Miracles.

Tonight, I was granted a miracle 💞🙏

Ask and you shall receive💚💚💚

Photos are from Pixabay

Self-Care Sunday #4

I was sitting here, slowly pulling myself from the box ” The Ex Files”, when I came across this gorgeous flower.

These are called Lily of the Valley. I wasn’t familiar with them; but, I knew there was a message in my finding them. 

Edie Smith, in his article on hunker.com, explores the symbolism of this particular flower. 

  • Known as May’s Lily, means “return to happiness”.

most often symbolizes chastity, purity, happiness, luck and humility.”

  • In a Christian Lore, the flowers are believed to be tears. Tears of Eve, Jacob, or Virgin Mary’s. 
  • In the world of folklore, Villy of the Valley flowers are protection against evil spirits, tiny cups for faires’ drinks, provide visions of heaven, and hold several others significant purposes.
  • Celebrated on May Day in France, these are sold in street venders. 

What I noticed, the theme among all the definitions, is it’s belief in prosperity of happiness. When I need it most, right now, because our Good Lord knows all… my morning is embracing the gift of possibility. That pain shall pass, and though differently than it looked before, my happiness will find me again… from the angelic cups of overflowing tears. God’s creation of this flower teaches that it’s ok to cry. Even then, something beautiful happens. 

Life isn’t a coincidence, but a series of events, guiding you to the best, the highest version of yourself. In the days, tucked in, are the moments and messages that get you through, storing and restoring, wounds that felt impossible to heal. Open your heart, and you’ll see everything is for your good. 


What love isn’t

  • Easy
  • A feeling
  • Getting your way all the time
  • Endless supply of money
  • Selfishness
  • Stagnant
  • Lusting after another
  • Emotional attention given /received from someone other than partner
  • Munipulation
  • Apathetic
  • Withholding
  • Emotionally unattached
  • Lack of willingness to understand
  • Choose not to communicate effectively
  • Found at the bottom of a bottle
  • Doing what you want over what you need to do
  • Comfortable lying
  • Incapable of working through conflict
  • Seeking attention
  • Unaccountable of self
  • Insecure
  • Envious
  • Unforgiving
  • Unmerciful
  • Lacks grace
  • Jealous
  • Untrustworthy
  • I thought I knew what love was, but I didn’t. I didn’t love myself ; therefore, I couldn’t have loved anyone else. I do know, though, that I’m seeking it now. I’m seeking it deep within myself and the best version of it with another. Years and years of a marriage, two individuals had surely learned along the way. I want that.
  • Denial

    I thought that if I acted like it didn’t matter, it wouldn’t. No one warned me; I never saw the sign… It comes back stronger, three times fold, with every effort to resist.

    The reminders are everywhere. Friends no longer stop and say hello. They don’t know how to handle it, making eye contact, knowing what they know.

    The store window where we met; the diner of our first date. I can’t escape the taunting ruthlessness. I had visited the studio where we recorded our love album, and I felt I could physically feel your presence.

    You’ve only been gone six months, but, even now, the wound is so raw.. there isn’t a safety scab or a bandaid capable of taking off any edge of this.

    I thought if I could put you out of my mind, and act like it didn’t matter, that it wouldn’t…

    But, denial is only the first stage in the process of grieving.

    Photo Credit: pixel
    Photo Credit: Pixel

    Prompt inspired by Promptuarium

    {3TC:} Miss Claire & Her Moon

    Here’s the beginning of the story with Miss Claire and her Moon.

    It’s called Shooting Star

    Continue reading “{3TC:} Miss Claire & Her Moon”


    I’m so thankful to live this life, open-hearted to “the possible”… With faith bigger than fear, and my eyes focused on truths. So much could destroy me… Bitter my heart, send me down a dark rabbit hole… I Know that my ONLY limitation is myself… And I’m entirely too curious and stubborn to get in my own damn way!

    #blessed #youpeoplearefabulous #choices #mylife #makingadifference #bloomwhereyouareplanted

    This vs That

    You know what I love about theory? It can be proven to be truth, by some tangible evidence. Likewise, it can be debunked by tangible evidence.

    Trial and error produces results that either support or debunk a theory. In the case of spirituality, though truth relies on personal beliefs for the majority, the same CAN still happen.

    Let’s say a trial is set up to determine whether or not a concoshtion of drugs can cure Hodgkinson lymphoma. Through studies, researchers have reported this cancer ills middle-aged African Americans more so than other group. Coincidently, spiritual beliefs also reign strong in the African American Society.

    The two possible outcomes of the trial are

    1. The cancer is gone.
    2. The cancer is still present.

    Science, evidence of tangible blood tests, provides some answers as to a cure. Now, what about faith… and spirituality?

    The cancer is a condition that enters the Petri dish called prayer. The testing machines are belief, faith, and obedience. For the individuals who live deep in faith, the power of a Greater Being has provided tangible evidence.

    Through prayer and praise, rebuke of the Devil, and other spiritual practices, the two results are:

    1. The cancer is gone.
    2. The cancer is still present.

    In the Biblical day’s, Jesus rose from the dead. He turned water into wine (one of my MOST appreciated gratitudes;), and cured a woman from Leprosy. Those are tangible results. To the followers of Jesus, that’s the belief that God’s able and capable.. despite the unseen. In modern day, tangible evidence could be a crippled standing up and walking back to his/her seat.

    In both scenarios, the theory was born through a belief in possibility. By testing a theory, the results showedq either successful or unsuccessful. Based on the tangible results, each scenario will tweak the procedure and try again. Should there be no other possibility (probability), the testing has been completed.

    Evidence is a result of theory… an idea that took on life because one person believed it.

    Neither was proven more valid than the other. Neither was proven better than the other.

    Both were proven to be systems that produced results based on belief.

    What you choose to believe is your life. All that’s happening around you is a system of particles swirling to and fro, appearing in the formation of recognizable objects. What truth is in it? What theory are you testing? Are you testing the theories you belief? Do you even know what you belief? Are you seeing the results that you desire? Are you opened to the possibility of alternative results? Are you willing to tweak and try again?

    Something to think about 🧡

    GDJ-1086657 : Featured image credit

    Dear You

    Dear You,

    You trying to be invisible,

    You secluding in the back,

    Dear You,

    You driving to fast,

    You hiding under the sheets,

    Dear You,

    You staggering in at 6 a.m.,

    You crying upon endlessness crying,

    Dear You,

    You drowning yourself in pity,

    You convincing yourself of shit,

    Dear You,

    You shutting everyone out,

    You pushing everything away,

    Dear You,

    You refusing to eat,

    You dwelling on the past,

    Dear You,

    You doing nothing,

    You expecting nothing to change,

    Dear You,

    You living behind excuses,

    You allowing aimless days,

    Dear You,

    You drinking every dollar away,

    You squandering savings in slot machines,

    Dear You,

    You soaking up the victim role,

    You selling yourself to ignorance,

    Dear You,

    You dallying the present day

    You loosing yourself.

    Dear You,

    You justifying your behavior,

    You wasting life away,

    Stop! Enough is enough, and none of this is healthy.

    Dear YOU:

    You need help.

    You need self-love to tell you, you’re worth more.


    This past week had lots of ups and lots of downs. I felt some things I hadn’t ever before, and they were profound! Much of the week, I was so sleep deprived that I couldn’t see the big picture.

    This morning, when I opened my planner, this quote summarized it perfectly… And my heart felt an abundance of peace.

    “There is no chance, no destiny, no fate, that can circumvent, or hinder or control the firm resolve of a determined soul.”

    Ella Wheeler Wilcox

    In my personal life, this determined soul opened my eyes to a very real spiritual miracle! God lead me to the right people, in a matter of a few hours. Under His name, In 48 hrs, someone I love rose from ventilation and weakness, laying enraged in a hospital bed, to oneriness and all the familiar color I remember 💖, doing therapy and flabbergasting the hospital staff!

    In addition to physical healing, there’s been emotional healing. I’ve been in communication with a family member of my loved one. It’s restoration of a relationship I’ve wanted for quite some time.

    My sleep schedule has also tried to work it’s crap on my soul. My baby needed a doctor visit. Thursday night I got 4 hours of sleep, and I felt I was going to be too tired to drive. I made it, though. God’s the provider of Strength. Yes, I would go to the moon on no sleep if my kids needed something… But, God’s Strength sure is welcoming.

    I am in awe of this insight. The timing of our lives’ events are EXACTLY as they’re meant to be. They are in the proper order… Though we don’t always see and/or understand why. If we were to CHOOSE when, where, what, how, and with whom every moment, how would our humanness make a mess of things. What blessings would we miss? Would we gain wisdom and healing? Would we voluntarily do things, that resulted in AWESOME WONDER, if we knew we’d hate doing them? Would we have be good people? Would we be humble and grateful? Would there be balance? Would this world know peace?

    My mind is a constant movement, piecing connections together, to feel the bigger picture. With Hope, Faith, and God’s gift of a Determined Soul, I walk my life. It’s a challenge, but the rewards are unexplainably extraordinary 😍

    Affirmative :

    No one is ever able to say God isn’t real when Faith is bigger than fear!

    10 of the best mental health apps for 2018

    Life happens! When it does, these apps are here to assist us in regaining control of our thoughts, breathing, confidence, and self esteem. These handy apps are here if we’re looking for a peaceful little away scape, place to throw up some thoughts, and talk with a professional about a situation. At any moment, I hope any of these apps help you find your peace once again.

    Whether you’re going through a rough patch, experiencing depression, anxiety, or stress, or having relationship issues, there is an app to help.
    — Read on www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/320557.php

    The Endless Circle

    Plants bloom and wilt. Babies are born, and people die. Structures go up, and buildings are torn down. The cycles in life seem to be continuous. In some instances, unfortunately, the cycle stops. Species of animals and plants become extinct.

    Imagine how these cycles would look if each participated with his/her own best interest at heart. How different would this world be if honey bees just decided not to pollinate. How ugly would this planet look if trees and grass, flowers, and water didn’t work together and provide for one another? What if the sun just stopped turning, and we were stuck in mid-darkness!

    The concept of give and take for the balance of a greater good can also be found in scripture.

    Proverbs 11:18; “A wicked person earns deceptive wages,but the one who sows righteousness reaps a sure reward.”

    2 Corinthians 9:6; “The point is this: whoever sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and whoever sows bountifully will also reap bountifully.”

    Luke 8:4-18; “And when a great crowd was gathering and people from town after town came to him, he said in a parable: “A sower went out to sow his seed. And as he sowed, some fell along the path and was trampled underfoot, and the birds of the air devoured it. And some fell on the rock, and as it grew up, it withered away, because it had no moisture. And some fell among thorns, and the thorns grew up with it and choked it. And some fell into good soil and grew and yielded a hundredfold.” As he said these things, he called out, “He who has ears to hear, let him hear.”

    All these examples teach one very important lesson, and it’s this concept humans have seemingly forgotten.

    What you: exert, reap, and give to this world.

    You will: gain, sow, and be given from this world.

    Why do I say, we must have forgotten such a virtue? This thought continues in the next blog.

    Tell Me Your Story

    1533044115114I want to learn about my followers, and anyone who’d like to share:) If any certain number pertains to you, please list it in numerical order in a comment below. Thanks:)

    One Day a Year

    Every year, on THE day, we turn a year older. It’s a blessing, a gift, to open our eyes and see another day… Every day! As busy as we get, wrapped up in deadlines, meetings, obligations, and stuff… I hope you remember to stop your clock… And just be.. It’s my Birthday Wish🎂🍰!

    Hope for the Broken-hearted

    Siblings found chained in backyard in 2016 celebrate adoption
    — Read on www.cleveland19.com/story/38358804/siblings-found-chained-in-backyard-in-2016-celebrate-adoption

    There’s many a story with gut-wrenching endings at our access. This one, however, turned quite glorious! My four siblings and I were adopted, at young ages. We grew up trying to understand and accept what we couldn’t control. I still struggle with abandonment issues; but, I’m hopeful. These children are smiling despite their adversity. My heart smiles at the thought of their futures with their new family😍😍


    ❤️ Let that sink in, for a minute.

    You don’t know when it’s “your time”.

    In fact, you started dying just moments after you were born. Every second, minute, hour, day, week, month, year up till, “now”, was always “right now”… You didn’t see it as “yesterday”, because you don’t live in it. You don’t see it as tomorrow because you don’t live there either. You are right now… And so, what will you do with this “now”? It’s all you have. Never two measurements of time can be lived twice… And one moment of time will end every next “now”…. Your life is right now…. Dear ones, it’s all you will absolutely have… Make it count.

    World of Difference

    💭World of Difference

    I believe the sequence of events in my life has lead me to right where I am. The right decisions, the poor choices, hard consequences, every small victory, broken relationship, and road block. My past, well equipped with both successful and failed moments, is how I am here today.

    …. No matter what, I’d never change any of it if it were possible!…

    HOWEVER,…. My power gifted by God himself, is that of choice. Maybe I couldn’t decide, at 5, whether or not my mother would die. At 13, I wasn’t able to decide for myself how I needed to handle the family turmoil I was experiencing.

    In those moments, though, God was trying to teach me… Listen Brandy. There are reasons why these things are happening. Listen my child, I’m trying to show you, listen, so you understand my heart… And my love for you.

    Now that I’m old enough to decide much more for myself, I realize the lesson I didn’t hear before. Listening, especially in situations of which we can’t control… In situations of which we don’t get to decide, is what we must do… So we understand!

    Let me explain further. Today, I live my relationship where I’ve chosen to walk a long, rocky, lonely, uncertain road…where fear can easily swallow me up and steal my sense of sanity. It’s my choice to face this situation because this LOVE is worth it. I’ve chosen this path because He’s who I’ve been searching for all my life. I get to decide if I cry in fear, rant in rage, or laugh when I see him.

    While I can’t change how long this goes on, when he visits, what details I am told, In all the moments when “I can’t”…. I sit… And I listen… To understand. Those moments, in silence, is when I hear his heart… His love.. His love for me and his intentions… I hear his wisdom. I hear his pain.. I accept his imperfections and beautiful flaws. I allow another life to impact mine… I give this gift of time… and I demonstrate that He’s valued… what he tells me is important and I understand him. Through listening, I silence all my selfish thoughts about myself, and I redirect my focus to him. I intentionally focus on what he’s saying or not saying, doing and not doing, so I better understand him… because he matters… and I want him to know he matters to me.

    Because I have accepted I don’t always get to control every aspect of my life, I’ve been blessed by the gifts of others. I’ve been blessed with moments of divine wisdom from others teachings. I’ve been able to deepen relationships, strength my appreciation of adversity and embrace the beauty of Difference. I’ve been able to laugh from the soul, cry with relief, and provide encouragement when needed.

    With that being said, my point is this, I’d never change anything that lead me to right now… But, I’d teach others to quietly sit, with a desired sense to authentically and openingly listen… To ourselves.. To God… To nature…to others… The birds, wind, children laughing… Everything….

    There’s so much more to this world…. There’s so many more in this world… Than ourselves. When we truly embrace that, we become a better version of ourselves without even realizing it. If we all began with bettering ourselves, as ironically as it sounds, we better life for everyone else…