Boundaries are a HUGE piece to the puzzle of self care. It establishes your beliefs in relationships, rules for how others are to treat you, and moral/ethical code in a sense.
When you set boundaries, you’re telling others what’s ok and what’s not ok in your life.
Some individuals develop this strong sense of need for power control. They’re often described as being narcissistic.
Narcs use manipulation to gain power, by breaking down a person’s mind . They do everything from gaslighting to emotionally neglect an individual so that the ball stays in their field.
They also hate boundaries! These are the limits you set to obtain the healthy and happy lifestyle that you’re willing to actively maintain/obtain.
Now, there’s different forms of manipulation. They vary from situation to situation, person to person. An employee might confront a form that isn’t suitable to a romantic relationship.
There’s are a few articles that further explain the signs of Psychological and Emotional forms of Manipulation.
- 14 Signs of Psychological and Emotional Manipulation
- 33 Ways People try to Manipulate You
- The 9 Terms and Phrases You Need to Know if You Think You’re Being Manipulated
Manipulative, abusive people tend to be cruel to their partners, and hurl insults at them. They sometimes are also physically violent. However, they didn’t start off this way when they were reeling in their victim.
Manipulators also give their partners intermittent periods of love and compliments to get them to stick around. These moments are given when the partner has “behaved” or has done something right. It’s a way of being conditioned, and the victim gets biologically addicted to the emotional push and pull.Lindsay Dodgson, Business Insider
This above is the scariest technique, in my opinion. It’s the one that most confuses the heart & mind… while the manipulator uses other techniques to further gain power.
Whether you have, or know someone who has, dealt with this ridiculous toxicity , I hope you KNOW your boundaries matter. They’re so important for YOUR health… And there’s absolutely nothing wrong with
- Deciding them.
- Having them.
- Enforcing them.
If you’re not sure how to go about doing this, or need to talk about this subject with someone, let me further encourage you. You deserve the very best. Be actively involved in advocating for you!