We are our own worst critics.
I wonder,…. if we were to stand in front of the 4 year old version of ourselves, would we be so harsh? Would we talk so down about ourselves, what we look like, or what we’ve done? Would we be so unforgiving of the mistakes and so solid on criticizing our character.
I’m guessing doubtfully so…
Why, then, do we do it to our reflections? Because we should know better? Because we expect more of ourselves? Because adults shouldn’t have excuses for mistakes, but rather, there shouldn’t be a many mistakes.
The lessons we’ve learned this far haven’t been because someone said ” Don’t touch that, it’s hot!” And then we listened. Oh no, humans do the exact opposite of what’s good for them, usually within minutes of being told not to. It’s how we learn though, by doing… And by doing so, the expierence becomes relevant to our lives.
What children learn though, or what they should learn, is that they’re not defined by their mistakes. They’re defined by how they handle life… How they handle every situation they get into… And that by being given the opportunity to choose for him/herself, he/she can grow confident in his/her decision making.
Those who feel their mistakes are branded on their skin may have expierenced shame as a child. They may believe that they’re incapable of doing something right. They may lack confidence and self esteem. This type of person might be you.
I just want to say you are wonderful just as you are. Each of you is a gift to this world, and your mistakes have made you the better person you are today. We NEED mistakes, so we can learn and grow. There’s nothing of which will go down in vein of you ALLOW yourself to be uncomfortable and change. It’s taken me many years to erase the embarrassment from my skin.