30DS Challenge – Day 10

For the sake of my mental health, I’m not posting a video or any video that makes me sad. Sometimes, for those of us who are INFJ and /or  HSP, coming back from a sad moment could take a minute,…. Or ruin the entire day. 

On Sunday, I  heard a song Gary Allan’s Tough Little Boys. The storyline talks about tough men, who face all life’s biggest challenges with “no fear”, until he’s handed a child (particularly a daughter). 

This concept, ” Father -Daughter”, triggers so much in me. I can’t listen to ANY song that celebrates it. I can’t listen to any sing that focuses on it. I have abandonment issues, and it wasn’t until very recently that I’ve understood my thought and behaviors and realized how much I’ve missed out on…. And now how much my Zivah will miss out on. 

You see, my biological father forfeited his rights, my adoptive father favored his biological children…. And I’ve had to screw up and break hearts to realize no boyfriend should be the “fatherly” aspects I need. I just better understand myself now.

Children NEED their Fathers JUST AS MUCH as they need mothers. Each parent plays a huge role in the healthy development and growth of their child. It sickens me to see adults act selfishly for their benefit rather than for the well being of the child. 

That being said, men, if you have children, go do right by them…. It’s your responsibility…. And Little Girls need to feel arms of love and safety…. Because women like me just want that when she feels threatened or scared. 

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6 comments on “30DS Challenge – Day 10”
  1. Jade M. Wong says:

    I’m so sorry that you’ve gone through such a terrible experience. Any child growing up without knowing love and support from their parents is truly a tragic thing. Your fathers, both biological and adoptive, missed out on the wonderful experience of getting to know you, I’m sure.

    P.S. I’m also INFJ 🙂

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  2. You are so right. Like the right side of the brain controls the left side of the body and the left side of the brain controls the right side of the body. Cut one out and half the person is paralyzed.

    Thank you so much for sharing, I know it must be hard.

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    1. Nova says:

      You’re welcome. Your analogy fits perfectly with my post. Thank you for sharing and taking time to read.
      It’s a work in progress.

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      1. We all are in some form or fashion. Take solace in knowing that you’re not the only messed up person on this earth.

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        1. Nova says:

          LoL gee thanks😂😂 (I know what you mean)

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        2. Thanks, LOL. I know sometimes I ain’t that good at saying what I’m trying to say.

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