3TC: hope, love, lost
This word combination is ironically the entire purpose of living…
Hope is that which we want. It’s belief in something yet to happen, but that we feel can and will happen… A great job, an answered prayer for a loved one, a passing grade on a test, an acceptance into the first college of choice.
At some point, we all hope for the attention of an individual of which we find attractive. We hope this individual looks our direction, and finds us attractive in return. It’s a funny experience, jumbled words and internal butterflies. Sheepish smiles and all that doesn’t make sense about love.
Sometimes, our hope becomes our reality. The love between two individuals blossoms more vibrant days, lovey dovey unexpected office deliveries, and tons of time… Not sleeping.
With hope, comes love, but the garuntee is… With love comes loss. Life ends, tournaments end, holidays end, childhood ends…. Everything does. It’s the inevitable. Life begins to end the moment we’re born… One second at a time… Slowly, it passes and it’s incapable of returning.
Some people acknowledge that, and spend time making the very best of every moment. Others don’t see or consider a bigger picture. Maybe they’re drug addicts and can only focus on that short-term fix. Unfortunately, such lifestyles exist too. Either way, what we love… We eventually lose.
TRAUMA creates a change within the brain. It’s a segment of thoughts that get stuck in a certain period of time. Real life can trigger such memories, and the individual must manage the experience. Loss is painful.
Pain stops many people from living… And feeling. There’s several reasons why this happens; but, that’s irrelevant. At this point, then, the individual lives life in their loss.
He or she won’t allow him/herself to grow an attachment. He or she won’t allow anyone to be too close or in too deep. He or she may refuse to allow much to matter, at all.
When there’s no love, no passionate for more.. no belief or desire to achieve in life… Because existing is merely going through the motions… There’s no hope. There’s nothing to lose because nothing was gained. There’s no additional pain because there was no attachment.
I’ve seen both of these chain of events. I have loved ones who’ve been in one or the other… And I’ve tried to help them heal.
The order of which these happen is determined by what any one individual sees at any point in life… And only they can change their course.